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Even those of us aware that there are Spirit helpers available to us and working with them can sometimes feel that we’re not getting the help that we’re asking for.  While Spirit guides are available to each of us, there are a couple of key things to understand to learn to work with them, or work with them in a more fulfilling, satisfying, co-creating way: learning to open to what they have to offer and learning to ask the right sort of questions.

The Role of Spirit Help

What will Spirit offer?  Spirit is available to guide decision-making by reinforcing what will get you where you want to go and what won’t.  I don’t use the phrases “good for you” or “bad for you” because the truth is that you get whatever it is that you ask for, and a lot of times people ask for and get things that don’t get them where they wnat to go, and they might think of these things as bad.  The key to all of this, the ways in which Spirit will help you, has to do with a level of honesty you can choose to have with yourself about where you’re headed, and why you do what you do.

So, Spirit will help you get where you want to go.  Just how are you supposed to know where you want to go?  This can be sticky when we begin to ask, as we’re talking about the conscious desires and intentions as well as the unconscious ones.  Each of us deals with unconscious programming and conditioning...until we don’t.  If we’re asking for help but perceive that we’re not receiving it, it could be due to conflicting frequencies that we’re generating (see Who’s Running the Show?).  The first step in this work is getting clear on what’s really going on: at any given moment, what parts of me are active and why; what are the various parts of me attempting to achieve; and most importantly, what do they need (whether they know it or not)?

Learning to sort out and honor each of our voices, each part of us that may be trying to run the show, is a significant part of the path of getting realer and more whole (healthier).  The other significant part is loving yourself enough to choose on a regular basis what works for you, what helps get you where you want to be.  I think of this as feeding certain voices, or parts of ourselves, in order to help them grow, and then conversely being with the parts of us we’re not interested in growing.  It’s also important not to beat ourselves up for having parts that would lead us away from our desired path.  These parts are just as much you as the others, and they (you) need love at every step of the way.  What we’re really talking about with these parts-as-voices is areas of us that have developed strategies for survival or maintenance that are in the end destructive, but these parts of us think they’re helping out.  The best thing to do with them is to acknowledge what they’re trying to do, find out what they actually need when they’re making noise, and love them.  Hold space for and love them – that’s what they perceive they lack.

The Right Sort of Questions

The more specific your questions get, the more likely they’re being formulated by your conditioned mind.  When you ask with your heart and from a place of love, you’re asking for the kinds of things and in ways that support growth, and you acknowledge that you might not know precisely what you need in that moment, giving Spirit a chance to help you in whatever way is needed.

When you ask with an openness and from that place of love, Spirit is all too willing to help you out.  When you come from that place and are asking for something, sometimes it’s good to append the phrase “this or something better.”  This sends the signal that you’re open to what might be better, even if you’re not sure what that might look like.

As an example, we might be trying to accomplish something from a motivation of fear, and be coming up against walls.  It’s probably true that you have not seen just what is your true motivation for what you’re trying to do, and coming to see it is the important part.  When you ask Spirit for help in this kind of situation, asking what you’re doing wrong, or why you’re not allowed to accomplish it is, frankly, worthless.  That business is a game of the conscious mind and its layers of conditioning that’s about finding a way to make you wrong.  Instead, asking to see what it is that you haven’t already seen, or asking to understand why getting it done might not be the best thing for you at that time are the kinds of questions that will yield results.

Spirit doesn’t interact with you from places of fear.  Spirit is always operating on the level of love, pure and simple.  Our questions from anger, fear and hate are likely not to be answered because Spirit will not interact with us on that level.  We have the capacity to choose our approach, and it is in discerning what it is that we’re doing (raging against feeling blocked or opening to loving guidance) that we can find the path forward.

In closing, I can tell you that if you’re asking for help, you’re getting it.  Even if you’re not consciously open to receiving loving guidance, you’re finding that certain things work well and certain things won’t.  When you’re hacking away at the same old problem with the same old tools and can’t get anywhere, it’s time to try something new.  This is one way that Spirit interacts with us in our life: Helping bring us what will work and helping keep away, or making seem sour, what won’t – depending, of course, on what we’re asking for and why.

As you can probably tell, a giant part of fthis journey is about learning to love yourself.  Amid the static and noise, conditioning and self-hate games we can tend to play is this capacity for self-acceptance that is the key to getting where you truly want to go.